Sunday, May 12, 2013

Be Willing to See

"No matter how intensely you feel your situation, which has its own unique difficulties, if you look to the right and left, you will see others who are just as caught up in their situations. Strip away the details, and what remains is a general cause of suffering: lack of awareness. By lack I'm not implying personal failure. Unless you are shown how to expand your awareness, you have no choice but to experience a state of contraction." - Deepak Chopra, "Spiritual Solutions"

So be willing to see and trust that you will be guided to your solution.  Your consciousness. 

Get Real

If you want to get real, forgive and show love for those who have hurt you. Forgiveness is for you and your well being. Once we let go of judgment, we are more free to go after the things we want. Sometimes it's easy to forgive and other times parts of us long for retribution. We often think that putting down others and enforcing our sense of righteousness is a sign of strength but it actually puts us in a position of servitude to negativity, hate, and poisonous resentment. Our inability to accept betrayal or disappointment and move past that to a place of seeing the person as they are will affect all our relationships. No one wants to hold space with someone who is binding another person to a set of expectations. If we see our expectations clearly they become desires and once we move into a place of feeling, our guard drops and we begin to take real steps towards our truth. 

Saturday, May 11, 2013

Whatever you choose to keep hidden and silenced you choose to live in fear of.


Being at home with yourself is just as much about organizing your physical space as it is mental. In fact, they are related! (shocker.)

Saturday, February 9, 2013


Jay-Z and Beyonce (sorry about the pics Bey but you survived a "fall" from grace before so I have no doubt you'll do it again with much finesse) are arguably the hip hop parallels of Barack and Michelle. They are also the only celebrity couple I know and respect for their progressive, passionate, and very sincerely, one helluva rock-solid relationship (Jay-Z is now legally Sean Knowles-Carter)!

I will admit that I have attempted, many times very blindly, to project the trajectory of their relationship with men I encounter in my life. How would I, a simple young woman of average media access means, even begin to know Beyonce and Jay-Z's love story, you ask? Well, I do what any smart, college-educated, and very sleuth-like, hopeless romantic would do: listen to their music

One of my favorites is Jay-Z's "I Know". It's comforting for us to know that careers built on massive talent and hard work do not make you immune to the perils of codependency

Codependency: If you don't know what that's all about and you're dating in NYC, LA, or in any major city, you might as well be swimming with sharks trailing blood from all four limbs. 

If you want to find out that you are one among many, here are some questions to consider:

Tuesday, February 5, 2013


Photo Credit: Nostalgia on Wheels, Ed Roth 1963
If you couldn't tell, I LOVE fried chicken. I'm in favor of a raw, vegan diet 90% of the time but on days when things aren't going right or things are going SO RIGHT, I need to throw down with some fried yardbird! That's what happened a couple of days ago when my E-Mo and I decided to go to Auntie April's in Bayview, San Francisco.

Monday, February 4, 2013


Tonight, at the suggestion of my dear aunt, I went to Omnivore Books in Mission, San Francisco to see Eddie Huang, "the guy who wrote that article about Marcus", give a talk on his new book, Fresh Off the Boat. Since I'm chef crushing on Marcus Samuelsson (chef crushing: to fall in love with chefs. Symptoms include weight gain, loss of sleep, & blind praise of all that they cook. A habit I picked it up as a little girl watching men run around with knives in the kitchen of my dad's restaurants), my aunt has made it a priority to give me a balanced perspective. I really didn't want to go see the guy who shot down Marcus's fried chicken but I found myself (having woken up from a two hour nap with nothing to do and full of guilt of having wasted a perfectly good day) sitting at Piccino's across from the bus stop and googling directions (Muni #48 to Church St.) to tonight's event.

I have to say, meeting Eddie Huang in person is as good as any fried chicken meal. Self described as a "Human Panda" and wearing a gold chain with a jade Buddha hanging from it - he's visually novel and charming. I was absolutely in love within minutes (shamelessly, this is not saying a lot. I like EVERYONE, I really do). Apparently, Anthony Bourdain is also smitten with him:

I sit on toilets and drink stuff out of cans too! We are too cool for school. Photo Credit: Evan Sung for the NYTimes
“Long before I met him, I was a fan of his writing, and his merciless wit. He’s bigger than food.”—Anthony Bourdain